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Let Go of Fear

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I’ve got a lot of it.

I started off 2014 with the goal of being more fearless. Six months into the year, I think I’m starting to let go of fear. Well, at least in some areas, particularly in running.

I mentioned on Monday that I learned a few lessons at RRCA Coach Certification over the weekend that I plan on implementing into my own training plans. A lot of it has to deal with fear holding me back.

Fear of getting hurt (again). Fear of failure. Fear of being outside of my comfort zone.

One of my fears is speed.

In previous training cycles, I did a lot of my speed work or tempo runs on my treadmill. It was easy. Tap in the pace and go.

Too easy.

I’ve said it before, that the track has always intimidated me up until recently. Now I’m kind of digging it. I’m letting go of the fear of going fast. My body will not spontaneously combust if I hit xx pace. I won’t *knock on wood* trip and fall flat on my face. I’m surprising myself with how fast I have been able to run.

I never knew I had it in me!

It’s the same with 5k’s. They suck but I’m learning to embrace fast and the “I’m going to puke/pass out” feeling. I just need to remember I CAN.

Yesterday I planned to do a CORRECT tempo at the CORRECT pace outside. Tempo runs are so easy yet so confusing. Everyone’s definition of tempo is different. Over the weekend, I got the right one and learned I had been doing them kind of  wrong.

As soon as I saw what my pace had to be for 4 miles, I started to panic. It’s not an outlandishly fast pace and one that I’ve held onto for that long (or longer) before. For some reason, every time I see “fast” paces, I get scared. Fear creeps in.

I can’t go that fast for that long!

How can I hold onto that pace?

There’s hills all around me! There’s no way I can get that low.

Most days I self sabatoge even before I get out of the house.

But not yesterday.

I had a plan and I was going to go for it.

And you know what? I did it. And I frickin’ rocked that tempo. It felt comfortably hard but completely doable. I have never been so spot on with my paces either. No positive splits for once in my life.

Boom! Go me!

I think some fear will always be there when it comes to speed. But I will not let fear control my actions in running.

From now on it’s – Don’t think. Just do.

And maybe I’ll sing “Let it go!” over and over in my head during my next track workout.

What fears do you have in running?

Wring Out The Old

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I originally had another post scheduled for today but I just got home (I’m writing this Sunday night) from a 2 hour yoga intensive workshop and am riding a yoga high. The focus was on Wring Out The Old, Ring in the New. What a fantastic way to start the new year with yoga!

This cleansing class was full of twists (perfect for the digestive system after a little too much holiday fun), pranayama breath work, core work, heart opening back bends, and restorative poses to help wring out the old and make space for new. We were not there to punish our body for all it’s wrong doings over the holidays or in 2013. It was to connect with you heart, soul and body. To make space for the new. Allison, our teacher, spoke a lot of intentions for the year to help set the course. A word or phrase to direct toward the outcome, praises the effort rather than focusing on the wrong doing.

I focused on my words for the year – Fearless. Confident. Happy.

Many times during class, I could feel the yoga energy radiate through my body. My palms pulsated with it. I sweated out the negative thoughts. I twisted out the “I can’t”. I opened my heart to new opportunities. During Savasana, all of my emotions came to the surface. I started to tear up. I was a sweaty mess but I felt a sense of lightness. Calm. Peace. Hope. Confidence. Happy. There’s no better way to start the new year with those feelings. It felt simply marvelous (thanks Katie for hosting!)

Allison closed out the practice with a quote that stuck with me  –

“Don’t wait for the perfect time to begin. The perfect time is when you begin.”

How many times do we wait till January 1st? Tomorrow Next week. When I’m strong enough. When I’ve lost xx weight. There’s no better time than NOW, the present.

A big THANK YOU to my friend, Cheryl from Live Fit Daily, who posted about the intensive on Saturday. If not for her, I would have missed out on such a fantastic session. And I may have found my new yoga studio in the process!

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Have you ever felt like you need to be “wrung” out?

14 Goals for 2014

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I kind of love ‘em. They make me happier and give me a purpose to pursue. I always would set goals for myself before my blog but I never told anyone what they were. Never wrote them down. They were locked up tight in my conscious. Needless to say, I forgot what most of them were by February 1st. Since I’ve been putting my goals out for all to see, I actually have been more successful. And not surprisingly, more confident even though I don’t succeed at all of them.

So before I move on with this year, let’s look at how I did last year.

Goals for 2013

  • Train and complete a full marathon injury free – Completed but am still dealing with the injury that began right before the race.
  • Try trail running – Did a trail race!
  • Run 1500 miles for the year –  Made it to 1125 despite not running for more than 1/4 of the year because of injury mentioned above.
  • PR in half marathon, 1:45 – Nope. Missed it by 2 minutes.
  • 13 races of varying distance in 2013 – Completed 20 virtual and IRL races of varying distances.
  • Become a certified running coach – Didn’t make it in. Registration fills up fast!
  • Maintain yoga practice of 2-3x/week –  Some weeks were better than others. My favorite studio closed and I’m still in search of a new one that I like.
  • Increase strength training 3x/week. Possibly try CrossFit – Most weeks it was 2-3x. I didn’t join a CrossFit Box but have been doing my own WOD at home.
  • Date night at least every other month – Haven’t done any date nights but Ron and I have been trying to do date days. However, it was more like every three months.
  • Read 6 books – YES! Finally. I also hooked up with a book club.
  • Find more freelance writing opportunities –  Didn’t pursue that at all.
  • Get out of my comfort zone. Meet more new people, try new activities I wouldn’t otherwise, be fearless, take chances, etc. – I’d give myself a 70% on that one. I didn’t try as much as I should have because of fear and doubt.
  • Find a healthy balance in life, work and hobbies – Better than last year.

Last year my focus was on finding BALANCE in life, work and hobbies. I can honestly say it’s better than this time last year. I’m still horrible about my iphone. I check it way too much.

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14 Goals for 2014

  • Read a book a month
  • Attend a blog conference
  • Increase overall strength – NO running injuries this year!
  • Run more trails
  • Complete new local road race series. Lots of 5ks involved so I’ll FINALLY be able to say I ran a 5k!
  • 14 races of varying distances in 2014
  • Run 1500 miles.
  • 1:45 half marathon PR
  • Kick a marathons ass rather than it kicking mine. :)
  • Start a run club in my town.
  • Find a yoga studio to call home.
  • Put a plan of action together about where I’d like to go career wise – Become a certified running coach, Wellness coach, start personal training again, Yoga teacher training, etc.
  • Travel more. I’ll go anywhere!
  • More self care time. I work out. I eat right. But I seriously am slacking on the little things since having kids – Like taking time to get my hair cut more than once every six months or getting a pedicure because my feet are a snarled mess after marathon training.

My focus this year is on being fearless. Fear is what stops me from completing a lot of goals. Fear of failure. Fear of the unknown. Fear of being uncomfortable. Fear shakes my confidence. I always take the safe route. I always think of the “What if’s?” Of course that’s smart for some things but I want to try new things. I want to meet new people. I want to do rather than talk. I want to get out of my comfort zone.

Because you know what they say? That’s where the magic happens.

Do you set goals?

 Do you have a word of the year?