Things around my house have been a little stressful lately. The dynamic twin duo seem to be going through a fiercely independent but still needy, sassy stage. They’re 3 1/2 and full of the ‘tude (does anyone say that anymore?). I find my patience being tested daily. My role of a parent being put to the test hourly. There are days when I feel like all I do is yell, scold and referee. I don’t want to be this type of mama.
Yoga has taught me so much about myself – how to be patient, how to be present on the mat and off. Applying the lessons to parenting and to my kids just makes sense in being a yoga mama.
- Respect - There’s no doubt we are not always going to see eye to eye on everything. But if I want my kids to respect me and my decisions, I must show them the same courtesy that I expect from them. I’m going to try to see things from their point of view more often.
- Include the kids in my practice – My kids know I love yoga and I like to include them in the love. I’ll pull out my yoga mat and they bring out their own (i.e. blankets). I definitely don’t get a perfectly zen practice with my kids around but we laugh, improvise and just play. I can’t wait for the summer when Yoga in the Park starts back up. I think they’ll finally be at an age that they’ll enjoy it and more importantly, it won’t interfere with nap time.
- Be Patient – This has always been the hardest for me and one that I will always need to work on. I need to remember that they are young and finding their place in the world. My words can do a lot of damage. Stop, breathe, breathe, breathe, breathe. Then speak.
- Get Outside - It can be a pain in the butt to get outside with two toddlers, especially during the winter. But the fresh air can do wonders for the soul and attitude. One of my neighbors always remarks on how much my kids love being outside no matter the season or weather. I’m happy that they love it. I also think it’s kind of sad that someone thinks it’s different that they do. Isn’t that part of being a kid? I hope their love of fresh air stays with them for a lifetime.
- Listen – My kids have a lot to say. Kids in general are full of wisdom it’s just that adults tend to shut them up. Big souls and hearts in little bodies. When they talk, I need to listen with both ears and eyes. Put down the phone, step away from the computer. I want them to be able to talk to me now and forever. I owe them the respect of listening. And in turn, this will teach them to listen to others.
Yoga and parenting are a practice. There is no perfect pose or perfect parenting style. It’s what you bring to the practice. In yoga, when a pose becomes too much, I get frustrated or lose my focus, I return to my mat in child’s pose. As a yoga mama, I need to do the same.
Open your mind. Open your heart. Breathe. Be present. Repeat.
The divine light in me honors the divine light in you.
Have a marvelous day!